sunset, sunrise

"…if your partner loves and respects you and wants to do right by your relationship, then you don’t..."

Thu, 23 May 2013 00:56:41 -0400

“…if your partner loves and respects you and wants to do right by your relationship, then you don’t need to place controls on his behavior; his behavior will reflect the fact that he wants to do right by you, and does so because he chooses to, not because you make him. As Shelly wrote elsewhere, behavior is an emergent phenomenon. You don’t actually control your partner’s heart by controlling his behavior. If your partner’s heart is not really with your relationship, making rules won’t protect your relationship; if your partner’s heart is with your relationship, making rules to protect the relationship is unnecessary.”

- more than two/ polyamory/ jealousy: practice (via inventinghope)

I sort of agree with this, but as I’ve said before, often times “rules” are just a convenient way of saying “If you did this, it would make me sad” - and that’s not necessarily controlling, that’s communicating. And if you’re in a relationship with someone, you each deserve to know what the other finds upsetting.

(via wittingpolyamory)

“If you did this, I would be sad,” is indeed communicating. Which is very different from making a rule. An order of magnitude different.

I completely agree that partners should know about each other, and definitely should know what makes them happy and sad.

(via polyamorousmisanthrope)

aeide-thea: typethatilike: Received a beautifully printed...

Wed, 22 May 2013 13:12:39 -0400

aeide-thea:

typethatilike:

Received a beautifully printed invitation to the University of Readings BA Graphic Communication degree show this morning.

I’m looking forward to seeing all your work!

typofamily.co.uk

twitter.com/_typofamily

–

typethatilike.co.uk/degree-shows

for j., who loves ampersands. ♥

robotunicornblog: Here’s the animated GIF of the RU by Gemma...

Wed, 15 May 2013 20:47:47 -0400

robotunicornblog:

Here’s the animated GIF of the RU by Gemma Correll which I posted earlier. It’s a very happy, jolly unicorn, and is now even happier and jollier that it can move!

GPOY

THIS IS 100% ME

serenamidori: elanorpam: amischiefofmice: monotremata: The...

Mon, 13 May 2013 12:56:16 -0400

serenamidori:

elanorpam:

amischiefofmice:

monotremata:

The long awaited.. PRINCE AND THE PRINCESS…

My final project for my book arts class. Hope you enjoy ;o;

awww :3

*u* so cuuuute

WOW

"At the moment, probably the most pressing need is simply to slow down the engines of productivity...."

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 17:00:42 -0400

“At the moment, probably the most pressing need is simply to slow down the engines of productivity. This might seem a strange thing to say—our knee-jerk reaction to every crisis is to assume the solution is for everyone to work even more, though of course, this kind of reaction is really precisely the problem—but if you consider the overall state of the world, the conclusion becomes obvious. We seem to be facing two insoluble problems. On the one hand, we have witnessed an endless series of global debt crises, which have grown only more and more severe since the seventies, to the point where the overall burden of debt—sovereign, municipal, corporate, personal—is obviously unsustainable. On the other, we have an ecological crisis, a galloping process of climate change that is threatening to throw the entire planet into drought, floods, chaos, starvation, and war. The two might seem unrelated. But ultimately they are the same. What is debt, after all, but the promise of future productivity? Saying that global debt levels keep rising is simply another way of saying that, as a collectivity, human beings are promising each other to produce an even greater volume of goods and services in the future than they are creating now. But even current levels are clearly unsustainable. They are precisely what’s destroying the planet, at an ever-increasing pace.”

- Found on the excellent Boston Review: A Practical Utopian’s Guide to the Coming Collapse by David Graeber.

(via greatleapsideways)

You know build things that work, last, etc.

(via dancingtothemuzak)

i feel like i’ve been waiting for someone to say this all my life.

(via ammirato)

"When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes..."

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 14:00:29 -0400

“When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abuse cannot coexist. Abuse and neglect are, by definition, the opposites of nurturance and care … An overwhelming majority of us … were taught we were not okay, where we were shamed, verbally and/or physically abused, and emotionally neglected even as we were also taught to believe we were loved. For most folks it is just too threatening to embrace a definition of love that would no longer enable us to see love as present in our families [and relationships]. Too many of us need to cling to a notion of love that either makes abuse acceptable or at least makes it seem that whatever happened was not that bad.”

- bell hooks, from all about love: New Visions

Reading all about love has been and continues to be instrumental in my path towards healing, growth, and self-love. It has taught me that my pain is valuable and that through healing and surviving, I have become stronger, more resilient.

I often have to remind myself not to minimize my experiences, not to forget about the shit that I went through, and when I read all about love and come across content like the above quote, I recall why the remembrance of my struggles is so important: I never want to be in another situation where I mistake abuse for love.

(via liberationandlove)

baristart: Velatteraptor attack! Look out!

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 14:00:36 -0400

baristart:

Velatteraptor attack! Look out!

"Why do they always teach us that it’s easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline..."

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 14:00:46 -0400

“Why do they always teach us that it’s easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It’s the hardest thing in the world—to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want.”

- Ayn Rand (via larmoyante)

thedaintysquid: (via The Dainty Squid: what I wore; brown and...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 20:00:32 -0400

thedaintysquid:

(via The Dainty Squid: what I wore; brown and plaid)

staceythinx: Darkened Cities by Thierry Cohen imagines the...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 17:00:37 -0400

staceythinx:

Darkened Cities by Thierry Cohen imagines the starry skies we’d see in urban areas if we turned off all the lights.

About the project:

Before these pictures can exist, the sky from one place has to be superimposed upon cityscape from another. It is impossible to see this detail in the night sky above a city. Atmospheric and light pollution combine to make looking into the urban sky like looking past bright headlights while driving.

By travelling to places free from light pollution but situated on precisely the same latitude as his cities, Cohen obtains skies which, as the world rotates about its axis, are the very ones visible above the cities a few hours earlier or later. To find the right level of atmospheric clarity, Cohen has to go into the wild places of the earth, the Atacama, the Mojave, the western Sahara.

As more and more of the world’s population becomes urban, and as we lose our connection with the natural world, so it becomes plain that damage is caused by light pollution. There may be connections to certain cancers, and there are psychological burdens of permanent day. The ‘city that never sleeps’ is made up of millions of individuals breaking natural cycles of work and repose. Lose sight of the sky, and you become a rat in a lab.

Cohen hasn’t simply shown us the skies that we’re missing. His cities look dead under the fireworks display above No lights in the windows, no tracers of traffic. They are (in fact) photographed in daylight, when lights shine out less brightly. In urban mythology the city teems with energy and illumines everything around it. Cohen’s pictures are crafted to say the opposite. These are cold cities, cut off from the seemingly infinite energies above.

typethatilike: Underpantones Suddenly, the Pantone brand is...

Tue, 09 Apr 2013 14:30:58 -0400

typethatilike:

Underpantones

Suddenly, the Pantone brand is everywhere. Overuse? Maybe. But, as they say, if you can’t beat ‘em… so, over a few beers, we decided to add to the products on offer. Ladies and gentlemen, for him and for her, we present underpantones (and, of course, pantytones)! If we had our way it’s what every well-dressed designer would be wearing.

themarkwebsite.co.za

"To love is simply to allow another to be, live, grow, expand, become. An appreciation that demands..."

Sun, 07 Apr 2013 21:27:42 -0400

“To love is simply to allow another to be, live, grow, expand, become. An appreciation that demands and expects nothing in return.”

- Kate Millett (via womenorgnow)

since i began to understand the importance of love i have done everything in my power to show this kind of love to the people i care about.

for a long time, the resulting relationships seemed to be missing some vital component. at best, i was left disappointed; at worst, i was left abused and broken, hiding from anyone who claimed to care about me.

i have only recently realized that for this kind of love to become both sustainable and beneficial (like, so i don’t systematically self-destruct, and so i can direct my love towards people who are actually receptive to it), i have to always love myself first in the same way.

(spoilers: the missing component was me.)

anlevines: truthisweirder: From the designer: My Facebook and...

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 17:00:50 -0400

anlevines:

truthisweirder:

From the designer:

My Facebook and G+ newsfeeds have been filled with pink and red lately, so it seemed important to point out to the queer and allied in my life that Human Rights Campaign actually has a track record of promoting some rights at the expense of others. Being a fairly rough-and-tumble sort of cisgender queer man, I waded in.

It’s frankly unconscionable; transgender rights are integral to queer liberation, and moreover transfolks are our sisters and brothers, have shed the same blood, sweat, and tears in horrifying numbers for the same goals. The fact that names like Virginia Prince and Sylvia Rae Rivera aren’t as prominent in our histories as Harvey Milk says, I think, all it needs to about the need for some pink and purple soul-searching. Go forth and introspect.

Visually, too, I think the HRC equality logo leaves a bit to be desired, but I made minimal changes. The colors are based on the transgender pride flag designed by Monica Helms in 1999, the most widely used of several designs and to my eye, the most pleasing.

Considering that HRC seems to be continuing to give lip service to trans folks while throwing them under the bus, this is important and timely.

People need to know that the most visible LGBT “equality” organization out there continues to only fight for gay and lesbian equality at the expense of everyone else.

Trans allies, please repost. (And don’t give money to HRC.)

The lack of notes on this is troubling to me.

graphicporn: Philographics - Gerard Puigmal

Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:00:26 -0400

graphicporn:

Philographics - Gerard Puigmal

nevver: Keyboard Sofa um, want.

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 20:00:53 -0400

nevver:

Keyboard Sofa

um, want.

nevver: The History Channel what a great concept. (and well...

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 17:00:38 -0400

nevver:

The History Channel

what a great concept. (and well executed, too.)

penishole: southpawbandit: sollux-dont-ask-me-captor: evianwat...

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 15:12:46 -0400

penishole:

southpawbandit:

sollux-dont-ask-me-captor:

evianwaterprotectioninstitute:

i just got the weirdest boner

I stared at this for 10 minutes before i finally reblogged.

mmm omg

Fucking hell this is porn to me

yep.

nevver: If the Earth were 100 pixels wide

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 15:02:51 -0400

nevver:

If the Earth were 100 pixels wide

aeide-thea: this is really great but banana + package only ever...

Thu, 04 Apr 2013 14:57:15 -0400

aeide-thea:

this is really great

but banana + package only ever really add up to one thing

ha.

workisnotajob: Everyday is a good day to start something...

Mon, 25 Mar 2013 13:42:33 -0400

workisnotajob:

Everyday is a good day to start something meaningful. Happy Monday, Folks!

sunset, sunrise

"…if your partner loves and respects you and wants to do right by your relationship, then you don’t..."

aeide-thea: typethatilike: Received a beautifully printed...

robotunicornblog: Here’s the animated GIF of the RU by Gemma...

serenamidori: elanorpam: amischiefofmice: monotremata: The...

"At the moment, probably the most pressing need is simply to slow down the engines of productivity...."

Found on the excellent Boston Review: A Practical Utopian’s Guide to the Coming Collapse by David Graeber.

"When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes..."

baristart: Velatteraptor attack! Look out!

"Why do they always teach us that it’s easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline..."

thedaintysquid: (via The Dainty Squid: what I wore; brown and...

staceythinx: Darkened Cities by Thierry Cohen imagines the...

typethatilike: Underpantones Suddenly, the Pantone brand is...

"To love is simply to allow another to be, live, grow, expand, become. An appreciation that demands..."

anlevines: truthisweirder: From the designer: My Facebook and...

graphicporn: Philographics - Gerard Puigmal

nevver: Keyboard Sofa um, want.

nevver: The History Channel what a great concept. (and well...

penishole: southpawbandit: sollux-dont-ask-me-captor: evianwat...

nevver: If the Earth were 100 pixels wide

aeide-thea: this is really great but banana + package only ever...

workisnotajob: Everyday is a good day to start something...